TY  - BOOK
AU  - Becker,Michelle
TI  - Compassion for couples: : building the skills of loving connection
SN  - 9781462545155
U1  - 616.891562 
PY  - 2023///]
CY  - New York
PB  - The Guilford Press
KW  - Couples
KW  - Psychology
KW  - Couples therapy
KW  - Compassion
N1  - Includes bibliographical references (pages 253-263) and index; Part 1. Start where you are : understanding how things go wrong in relationships and how things get better; We all need to be loved; "Why can't you be here for me?" : understanding what gets in the way; "I wish I could fix it!" : resisting pain with problem solving; "Do you care?" : finding safe connection; "Who will love me?" : ensuring that compassion is always available to you; Part 2. Building a foundation for compassion in your relationship : mindfulness, common humanity, and kindness; Being present : mindfulness skills to see clearly and quiet reactivity; Cultivating connection : strength in common humanity; Getting what we need : kindness in three directions; Part 3. Putting it into practice :  tailoring compassion skills to your relationship; "What really matter to us?" : rooting your relationship in your values; "How can we really get each other?" : using compassionate communication skills; "Can we heal our wounds?" : cultivating the conditions for forgiveness; "How do we keep our love alive?" : celebrating positive experiences together
ER  -