TY  - BOOK
AU  - Carlson,Richard
TI  - Don't sweat the small stuff ... and it's all small stuff: : simple ways to keep the little things from taking over your life
SN  - 0786881852
U1  - 158.1 
PY  - 1997///]
CY  - New York
PB  - Hyperion
KW  - Behavior modification
KW  - Self-management (Psychology)
KW  - Peace of mind
N1  - Includes bibliographical references (pages 247-248); Don't sweat the small stuff; Make peace with imperfection; Let go of the idea that gentle, relaxed people can't be superachievers; Be aware of the snowball effect of your thinking; Develop your compassion; Remind yourself that when you die, your "in basket" won't be empty; Don't interrupt others of finish their sentences; Do something nice for someone else - don't tell anyone about it; Let others have the glory; Learn to live in the present moment; Imagine that everyone is enlightened except you; Let others be 'right" most of the time; Become more patient; Create "patience practice periods"; Be the first one to act loving or reach out; Ask yourself the questions, "will this matter a year from now?"; Surrender to the fact that life isn't fair; Allow yourself to be bored; Lower your tolerance to stress; Once a week, write a heartfelt letter; Imagine yourself at your own funeral; Repeat to yourself, "life isn't an emergency"; Experiment with your back burner; Spend a moment everyday thinking of someone to thank; Smile at strangers, look into their eyes, and say hello; Set aside quiet time, everyday; Imagine the people in your life as tiny infants and as one-hundred-year-old adults; Seek first to understand; Become a better listener; Choose your battles wisely; Become aware of your moods and don't allow yourself to be fooled by the low ones; Life is a test. It is only a test; Praise and blame are all the same; Practice random acts of kindness; Look beyond behavior; See the innocence; Choose being kind over being right; Tell three people (today) how much you love them; Practice humility; When in doubt about whose turn it is to take out the trash, go ahead and take it out; Avoid weatherproofing; Spend a moment, every day, thinking of someone to love; Become an anthropologist; Understand separate realities; Develop your own helping rituals; Every day, tell at least one person something you like, admire, or appreciate about them; Argue for your limitation, and they're yours; Remember that everything has God's fingerprints on it; Resist the urge to criticize; Write down your five most stubborn positions and see if you can soften them; Just for fun, agree with criticism directed toward you (then watch it go away); Search for the grain of truth in other opinions; See the as already broken (and everything else too); Understand the statement, "wherever you go, there you are"; Breathe before you speak; Be grateful when you're feeling good and graceful when you're feeling bad; Become a less aggressive driver; Relax; Adopt a child through the mail; Turn your melodrama into a mellow-drama; Read articles and books with entirely different points of view from your own and try to learn something; Do one things at a time; Count to ten; Practice being in the "eye of the storm"; Be flexible with changes in your plans; Think of what you have instead of what you want; Practice ignoring your negative thoughts; Be willing to learn from friends and family; Be happy where you are; Remember that you become what you practice most; Quiet the mind; Take up yoga; Make service an integral part of your life; Do a favor and don't ask for, or expect one in return; Think of your problems as potential teachers; Get comfortable not knowing; Acknowledge the totality of your being; Cut yourself come slack; Stop blaming others; Become an early riser; When trying to be helpful, focus on little things; Remember, one hundred years from now, all new people; Lighten up; Nurture a plant; Transform your relationship top your problems; The next time you find yourself in an argument, rather than defend your position, see if you can see the other point of view first; Redefine a "meaningful accomplishment"; Listen to your feelings (they are trying to tell you something); If someone throws you the ball, you don't have to catch; One more passing show; Fill your life with love; Realize the power of your own thoughts; Give up on the idea that "more is better"; Keep asking yourself, "what's really important?"; Trust your intuitive heart; Be open to "what is"; Mind your own business; Look for the extraordinary in the ordinary; Schedule time for your inner work; Live this day as if it were your last. It might be!
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