How to forgive : a step-by-step guide
/ John Monbourquette
- 198 pages
First published in French in 1992. English translation published in 2000 by Novalis, St. Paul University, Ottawa, Canada, Longman and Todd, London.
Includes bibliographical references (pages 195-198).
Part I. Exploring the nature of forgiveness Exploring the nature of forgiveness The importance of forgiveness in our lives A tale of forgiveness : Al and Adele Unmasking false notions of forgiveness Forgiveness Assessing the offence Who needs forgiveness? An experience of true forgiveness Part II. The twelve steps of true forgiveness Step one. Do not seek revenge : put an end to the offending actions Step two. Recognize your pain and poverty Step three. Share your pain with someone Step four. Identify your loss properly so you can grieve it Step five. Accept anger and the desire for revenge Step six. Forgive yourself Step seven. Understand your offender Step eight. Make sense of the offence in your life Step nine. Recognize that you're worthy of forgiveness and already forgiven Step ten. Stop trying so hard to forgive Step eleven. Open up to the grace of forgiving Step twelve. Decide whether to end or renew the relationship Celebrating forgiveness